Category Archives: ELSKE

Civil distance


MUSIKK > Meravigliosa creatura (by Gianna Nannini)

Molti mari e fiumi attraverserò
dentro la tua terra mi ritroverai
turbini e tempeste io cavalcherò
volero tra i fulmini
per averti

Meravigliosa creatura sei sola al mondo
meravigliosa paura di averti accanto
occhi di sole mi bruciano in mezzo al cuore
amo la vita meravigliosa

Luce dei miei occhi brilla su di me
voglio mille lune per accarezzarti
pendo dai tuoi sogni veglio su di te
non svegliarti non svegliarti...

Meravigliosa creatura sei sola al mondo
meravigliosa paura d'averti accanto
occhi di sole mi tremano le parole
amo la vita meravigliosa

Meravigliosa creatura un bacio lento
meravigliosa paura d'averti accanto
all'improvviso tu scendi nel paradiso
muoio d'amore meraviglioso


Getting rid of Romanticism patterns for healthy relationships

Twenty-first century depictions of love and marriage are shaped by a set of Romantic myths and misconceptions and with his trademark warmth and wit, Alain de Botton explores the complex landscape of a modern relationship, presenting a realistic case study for marriage and examining what it might mean to love, to be loved – and to stay in love.

Alain de Botton is an internationally renowned philosopher, television presenter and author of international best sellers Essays in Love, How Proust Can Change Your Life and Status Anxiety.

In this talk, he discusses his stunning new novel The Course of Love, a philosophical novel about modern relationships.

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BOK > The Art of Loving (by Erich Fromm)


Erich Fromm presents love as a skill that can be taught and developed, rejecting the idea of loving as something magical and mysterious that cannot be analyzed and explained. He is therefore skeptical about popular ideas such as “falling in love” or being helpless in the face of love.

Because modern humans are alienated from each other and from nature (NdA remember that he was writing in 1956), we seek refuge from our lonesomeness in romantic love and marriage. However, Fromm observes that real love “is not a sentiment which can be easily indulged in by anyone.” It is only through developing one’s total personality to the capacity of loving one’s neighbor with “true humility, courage, faith and discipline” that one attains the capacity to experience real love. This should be considered a rare achievement.

Fromm defended these opinions also in interview with Mike Wallace when he states: “love today is a relatively rare phenomenon, that we have a great deal of sentimentality; we have a great deal of illusion about love, namely as a…as something one falls in. But the question is that one cannot fall in love, really; one has to be in love. And that means that loving becomes, and the ability to love, becomes one of the most important things in life.”

The Art of Loving argues that the active character of true love involves four basic elements: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge (p. 24). Each of these is difficult to define and can differ markedly depending on the people involved and their circumstances. Seen in these terms, love is hard work, but it is also the most rewarding kind of work.

One of the book’s concepts is self-love. According to Fromm, loving oneself is quite different from arrogance, conceit or egocentrism. Loving oneself means caring about oneself, taking responsibility for oneself, respecting oneself, and knowing oneself (e.g. being realistic and honest about one’s strengths and weaknesses). In order to be able to truly love another person, one needs first to love oneself in this way.

Fromm calls the general idea of love in contemporary Western society égoïsme à deux – a relationship in which each person is entirely focused on the other, to the detriment of other people around them. The current belief is that a couple should be a well-assorted team, sexually and functionally, working towards a common aim. This is in contrast with Fromm’s description of true love and intimacy, which involves willful commitment directed toward a single unique individual. One cannot truly love another person if one does not love all of mankind including oneself.

The book includes explorations of the theories of brotherly love, motherly and fatherly love, erotic love, self-love, and the love of God, and an examination into love’s disintegration in contemporary Western culture.
(from wikipedia)

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